Green Flags

We hear a lot about red flags, but I have yet to hear about green flags. How does one know the positive outlooks of a love interest?

Life is far more beautiful when you’re experiencing green flags with the one you love. They aren’t spoken about often, but there’s just something about the experience that needs to be heard.

Green flags are when the relationship is going right. Red flags are when the relationship isn’t going right. Red flags are associated with pain, suffering and alarming behaviors whereas green flags are associated with positivity and good experiences.

Does your boo make you feel good? Are they using one or more of the 5 love languages that you’re looking for? Do you know what love language you play for your lover or what you would hope your lover would provide for you? Are these providing positive elements in your life?

Interestingly enough, did you know that more often than not, red flags are widely accepted by those we fall for and love, because people don’t believe they are deserving of better and that red flags are just something normal in a relationship. When green flags are presented, people find it foreign. Also, oftentimes, green flags are used to shadow the pain of red flags, be careful of those who are sending red flags, but cover it up with a green flag.

Green flags!

• Someone who makes you feel good all the time without hurting you.
• Someone who communicates well with you, listens and converses with you in a loving voice.
• Someone who helps you without complaining.
• Someone who gives you positive attention.
• Someone who makes time for you. 
• Someone who matches your energy.
• Someone who enjoys being with you.
• Someone who is emotionally intelligent.
• Someone who thinks of you.
• Someone who surprises you.
• Someone who gives you positive affirmations.
• Someone who authentically makes you feel good.
• Someone who loves your love.
• Someone who’s receptive to your love.
• Someone who respects you.
• Someone who includes you in life stuff.
• Someone who values quality time with you.
• Someone who appreciates you.
• Someone who supports you.
• Someone who makes you feel good, and NOT when they must be feeling good in order to make you feel good.
• Someone who makes you feel at ease.
• Someone that makes you feel safe.
• Someone who does something for you without expecting anything in return.
• Someone who enjoys making you happy and seeing you happy. 
• Someone who smiles when you’re around.
• Someone who speaks your love language.
• Someone who isn’t afraid to show you love, affection and attention.
• Someone who plans, leads and takes initiative.
• Someone who likes to open your door (house, building, car, etc…)
• Someone who likes you walking on the inside when walking along traffic.
• Someone who looks into your eyes when you’re speaking, kissing, making love or just because.
• Someone who includes you at parties, events and doesn’t dump your company for the company of others.
• Someone who is good at communicating with you.
• Someone who is honest and honest about how they feel about you.
• Someone who follows up after spending time with you.
• Someone who’s playful and funny.
• Someone who’s empathetic to you or your situation in life.
• Someone who’s confident and independent.
• Someone who’s secure with themselves.
• Someone who is kind to you as well as others and to themselves.
• Someone who genuinely cares about your wellbeing.
• Someone who is patient.
• Someone who talks about a future with you.
• Embraces your weirdness.
• Someone who isn’t embarrassed by you.

Red Flags!

• Someone who yells at you raises their voice and can sleep at night by doing so.
• Someone who doesn’t support you.
• Someone who is emotionally unstable and or immature.
• Someone who is combative.
• Someone who breaks things, slams doors, squeals tires.
• Someone who is physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally abusive.
• Someone who isn’t supportive of your talents, dreams, goals and passions.
• Someone who criticizes what you do.
• Someone who is all about themselves (inflated ego).
• Someone who is manipulative.
• Someone with anger issues.
• Someone who steals.
• Someone who likes to negatively control everything.
• Someone who lies and gaslights.
• Someone who uses excuses to treat you poorly.
• Someone who’s trauma is easily triggered by something you do or say and they treat you as though you were the one that caused them all their life issues.
• Someone who doesn’t take rejection well and retaliates.
• Someone who retaliates when they don’t get what they want.
• Someone who talks down to you and other people.
• Someone who negatively judges you and other people.
• Someone who’s addicted to drugs and alcohol and or acts out.
• Someone who makes excuses for why they do what they do and treat you poorly as a result.
• Someone who leaves you chasing them.
• Someone who ignores you once you go out to an event.
• Someone who waits too long to call or text you back.
• Someone who talks about themselves all the time and doesn’t ask about you or make it about themselves.
• Someone who doesn’t ask about your day.
• Someone who gossips.
• Someone who doesn’t put in effort to plan an outing or event with you.
• Doesn’t follow up after spending time with you.
• Visibly becomes upset.
• Retaliates when rejected.
• Combative.
• Belittles you.
• Downtalks things about you.
• Doesn’t include you in life stuff or in general.
• Doesn’t talk about a future with you.
• Loud and obnoxious with the need to be the center of attention.
• Buys you gifts with expectations.
• Treats people and animals poorly.
• Aggressive, passive-aggressive opinion.
• Uninterested in your weird.
• Someone who’s embarrassed by you.
• And we’ll, everything opposite of what I mentioned in GREEN FLAGS.

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